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Would You Buy Diamonds For Yourself?

Diamond Ah RingDiamonds are a girl's best friend - but do they lose their luster if you buy them for yourself?

By now we've all seen ad campaigns for the "right-hand ring" trend with such taglines as "Your left hand lives for love / Your right hand lives for the moment," and "Your left hand declares your commitment / Your right hand is a declaration of independence."

In my humble opinion, there is absolutely nothing wrong with a gal who buys herself diamond jewelry - but it's just not for me.

Call me old-fashioned and sound the women's lib alarm, but I can't bring myself to buy diamonds for my own person. (Then again, I don't have the money to do it anyways!) This hopeless romantic would sooner buy diamonds for her mom or a dear friend than for herself.

Perhaps I've just been brainwashed by the diamond industry - after all, they're the ones who led me to believe that a diamond is a symbol of eternal romantic love. Now in their efforts to grow sales, it's ironic that they should be the same people who are trying to convince me to declare my self-love and splurge on diamond jewelry for myself.

But what do you think? Should fine jewelry like a diamond ring only come into your possession as a special gift from a special someone - your husband or your boyfriend? Or is it OK to treat yourself and indulge in the real deal when you're in the mood and have the means?

Featured above: The diamond Ah Ring was originally created for confident and joyful single women to show the world they're available (A) and happy (h). $295 at
ok kiddies - quick lesson on diamonds. DeBeers has a monopoly on them and releases them into the market at their whim, which causes a demand (because there's never really a shortage of diamonds) and keeps the prices high. in Victorian times diamonds were considered semi-precious stones. the only 3 truly precious gems are rubies, emeralds and sapphires. with modern technology synthetic diamonds are created to equal the real thing - they've come a long way in the last 10-15 years. so it's all in the marketing - buy them for yourself by all means if glittery things appeal to you - or for people who would appreciate them. isn't purchasing any jewelry a form of vanity? so why should buying diamonds be any different? the only thing to watch for are the so-called 'blood diamonds' which we've all been hearing about. if you buy, ask the jeweler for some sort of proof that they were not obtained nefariously (south african diamonds are usually a safe bet).
#1 fif la mode on 2007-12-01 18:14 (Reply)
Indeed, there is a sinister side to the diamond industry. But let's put our cynicism aside for just one moment and consider that diamonds are the hardest known natural material in the world, and as such, they've been regarded throughout history for their strength and (once people figured out how to cut them) their beauty. The Romans thought diamonds had supernatural powers. Indian royalty regarded the diamond as an emblem of power, as did the Europeans after them.

Personally, we're absolutely fascinated by the science of diamonds - how they're formed and their unique molecular structure. Did you know a diamond may be the oldest material you'll ever own? We're talking billions of years old! Forget about De Beers and their marketing - diamonds are cool and they're kinda mind blowing if you stop and think about them. Oh, and colored diamonds and large diamonds are actually quite rare.

Anyways, I wouldn't buy diamonds for myself just as I wouldn't buy myself a dozen red roses (who's to blame for that, Ftd? Hallmark?). For me, they're symbolic of l-u-v.

However, the recent trend towards ever-larger diamonds on engagement rings is distasteful, gratuitous and can actually detract from their meaning. Oftentimes, the bigger the rock the shorter the marriage. Besides, it's foolish to go into debt over a flashy ring - a lot of young couples should put that money into a home or other investment instead. Basically, a diamond does not equal love, in my mind - but a diamond can be a very effective symbol of the established love between two individuals.
#1.1 The Budget Babe on 2007-12-02 17:11 (Reply)
great insights, i'm totally with you fifi. if you want a diamond, then by all means it's ok to buy one for yourself. also, thank you for pointing out the precious jems. i been telling my boyfriend to buy me an emerald, due to their scarcity, if he ever pops the question. how's that for sybolism?:)

also, i've been sporting a ring on my right ring finger for quite a while now. i like the fact that people aren't quite sure what to make of it. is she european & married? does it mean nothing at all?to me it actually means that i have a partner but am not married.
on that note, what does everyone think of women who wear diamonds on their left ring finger in order to detract & attract men? pretty clever excuse, if you ask me.
#1.2 romi on 2007-12-03 05:59 (Reply)
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